Tips For The Working Mom and Dad

Raising children well is not easy for couples who work. With the following guide hopefully you can perform tasks as a parent and a career in a balanced pair.
• Time
The relationship of parents - children who either take time to enable them come together physically. Not for hours. Importantly, parents consistently spend time with the kids almost every day. When with them, minimize distractions and concentrate our attention to them. Time is the cornerstone of good parenting buffer.
• Be a good listener
When the children to know that we really listen to what they say, they will be more eager to share their feelings and thoughts. Conversely, if parents thought their children or degrading "diligent" criticizing his words, the child will pull away and choose to be closer to friends. Therefore, if you want to have influence in the lives of children, be a good listener. They will receive when we help them solve problems.

• Set clear expectations
Telling children what we expect from it will form good behavior. Do not hesitate to include them in their daily work and to help accomplish these tasks in the home environment. Most children will definitely complain. So too we must seek for their love involved. In children who participate in the affairs of the household, work ethic will grow and more generally he feels part of the family.
• Do not let guilt
Many parents feel guilty for working all day outside the home. As compensation, they let the children behaving badly and not disciplined. A good parent is tough. Feeling guilty is counterproductive action.
• Do not replace affection or time with money
It is important to teach children how to manage money, but do not use the money instead of time or our affection. Materialistic message on television is easy to permeate the child and arouse their desire to buy this and that. We make them to always try if you want to gain something. Something that is obtained through the work may be more pronounced in value.
• Do not be too often mutually nanny
One of the important psychological needs of the child is that he terasuh with a kind and loving continuously. Therefore we need a nanny. By using a nanny, our anxiety will be reduced as long as we work. But before handing the child to a sitter, give me the opportunity to create intimacy and closeness between the child and the prospective nanny. Often mutually caregiver to harm the child.
• The key: supervision
Most of the time when the abandoned parent, the child got into trouble. Children simply do not know from birth, where good behavior, which is bad. They need to be taught and then monitored. Therefore, it is important for parents to know where her son, was with whom, and are doing. Indeed, children often complain that he was closely watched, but children are not supervised are also often feel that parents do not care about them.
• Give more attention when he was good
We tend to pay more attention to children when they are annoying. Instead, it is much more difficult to notice they're good behavior. If you want children to behave well, give attention to the things we like about them. If children feel ignored, he will unconsciously behave wrong to attract our attention. Watched them as they both do require effort.
• The punishment was to educate
Parents who work outside the home tend to experience fatigue and easily annoyed. Never punish a child when we ourselves can not control themselves. Use punishment to educate, not to vent anger.
• Give an example in relation
Children learn to relate from their parents. They also feel most secure if they see parents treat each other with a good partner. So the best thing we can do for children is to love our spouse.

(Source: Psychology of the Child) in "Intisari Online"